I knew I had to take note when two articles landed in my email inbox, both on Taking Personal Responsibility. They caught me off guard, as I was thinking, “I take responsibility”. But as I meditated on my own personal situation, I realized, I was caught in the “victim” mode and angry at my ex. You see, I had our retirement plan all worked out. We were on target to have as much or more income in retirement than we had the final years of working. Why did he have to be so vicious, abusive, force me to leave after so many years?? Now my retirement wasn’t as planned!! I was angry at him and felt sorry for myself.
After reading these two emails, and talking to my coach, I realized I had to let go of the anger, and take responsibility for my own thoughts, feelings, and actions. As “A Course In Miracles” states: taking responsibility would be “my salvation.” Once I realized my role in this disaster, once I started taking responsibility, everything changed rather quickly.
I sat down and reviewed my budget and discovered my finances were better than I had thought. I acknowledged that I had done a great job of saving for retirement, and because of that I will be fine on my own. I felt freedom and power I had never felt. I was in control and I can do this my way! Once I assumed personal responsibility, my passage to financial empowerment shifted into high gear.
Divorce can be so messy and difficult. Let me help you prepare for these difficult bumps in your finances. Don’t be the victim, take responsibility and prepare before filing!!